Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

Spring readers and the post about unconditional love





It Happens every Spring is the only blog I write in english. Despite reading articles and watching videos in english, writing is a challenge. I see it as an exercise to improve communication with my readers. You've guessed: 65% are americans. And as you know, english is the universal language of the internet.

Today I'd like to share with you an interesting fact: the most read post is The importance of unconditional love, with 67% of total visits. What does this tell you?
Do we wish to be loved unconditionally?
My answer is: yes, we do, even if we don't say it. We miss that kind of love that accepts us as we are. It's like coming home.
Who loves unconditionally?
My first answer is: only dogs and mothers (not all mothers) love unconditionally :)
My second answer is more careful and thoughtful: unconditional love is similar to adult love, is related to maturity, the ability to move from "me" to "us" without self-limiting or dissolving.




Saturday, January 28, 2017

The importance of hope


I still remember Brideshead Revisited and not just because of the script (an adaptation of a novel by Evelyn Waugh). Everything seems magical, unreal. And the places, Brideshead, Venice, Tangier... 
The second generation of the family is divided between rigid religious values and the call of real life, for love, friendship, adventure. The eldest daughter returns to her comfort zone of purity and God's forgiveness. The youngest one can never free herself from this influence. And the son ends up in Tangier drinking and smoking his life away. 
The main character finds hope in the end, after all the experiences that life gave him: love, friendship, pain, hope. He is not a believer and has seen how rules can destroy a person devoid of affection. Only love can save and heal. 
Finally he understands the rejection of his lover and her choice for God and peace of mind.



Another tv series that I won't forget is The jewel in the Crown. Again, it's not just the script. The place is also magical... India in the fourties. So much love and so much pain. So much madness and prejudice. There is hope in the end, even with the scars...
More recently, Parade's End and War and Peace.
All these tv series are adaptations of novels.

And then there are tv series designed directly for television: Law & Order, criminal intent, Menphis BeatPerson of Interest, Borgen, Homeland. 



Homeland is becoming better every season. :)
Carrie defends young students caught up in the fine line between a natural revolt of free speech and the intention of violence, the real threat. The challenge is huge: how can we draw the line?
In Homeland we learn to accept human nature, its strengths and its weaknesses, suffering, dependencies, self-destructive behavior. We won't find prejudice or disgust. Humans are fragile. 
Hope is still alive in all of them, above suffering and lonely days. This is the message. Humans mess things up but have the ability to fix them.




Friday, June 24, 2016

Reality is different from fiction





Pleasantville is a film about fiction and reality.. 

In a world in black and white everything happens according to a script, there are no surprises and things never go wrong, there are rules that everybody knows and respect.
Pleasantville is like a perfect world, where people are young and beautiful, streets are clean, everyone is polite, families live in harmony, good always wins in the end.

Reality is about injustice, pain, surprises... and colors. We have no script, rules are not respected, things go wrong. The world is not perfect, bad wins sometimes and villains are powerful.
Neverthless in its imperfection, reality is about life and living things, love and passion, curiosity, adventure, future. 

Europe was presented to european citizens as a Pleasantville with a script and rules, where countries are equal and live in harmony, with respect and fairness... a perfect world.
Reality showed them a very different Europe: there was a different script for the powerful, rules were only applied to the weak, citizens were punished for the financial sins. Villains won, good people lost 

Now Europe is facing a new phase without one of its 28 stars. UK was the first star to flee. Nobody expected such a result, but.now... that it happened... we can understand why. Reality is different from fiction. 




Sunday, May 29, 2016

The importance of unconditional love





This week we have a Paul Newman, Rachel Rachel

A teacher lives with her mother in a small town. She wakes up wishing to be dead. No family of her own, no prospects, no future. 
She has so much to give and all that is buried in a house still smelling of death. And on top of that a selfish mother incapable of love.

That summer holidays she finds the warmth of intimicy with a childhood friend but for him it's only a summer thing. He's also haunted by his childhood 
A close friend from school takes her to a local church and this traumatic experience reveals her hunger for love. 
She decides to leave, and this decision makes her feel hopeful for the first time. An uncertain future is a future nevertheless.



Thursday, April 7, 2016

Home and family are magic words to american culture









This time the movie is a Fritz Lang, Clash by Night.

A woman returns home. She knows she doesn't belong anywhere. Her sophisticated life in the city ended up when her lover died. Now she wants a quiet and comfortable life, to be protected by a steady and loyal man. She finds him, a new family and a real home, but she'll have to overcome her wild and restless nature. Perhaps this is the old human conflict between "me" and "us".

Home and family are magic words to american culture. American cinema reveals this importance.



Saturday, March 19, 2016

Living in a materialistic world







Another week another movie. This time is a Wyler, a film made with love and hope.
The film starts with three soldiers returning home. They'll try to adapt to a new materialistic world keeping intact their values. Family, friends, community. People who help each other.  




Thursday, October 10, 2013

"If Miss Honeychurch ever takes to live as she plays it would be very exciting, both for us and for her" (A Room with a view)


In A Room with a view there's a dialogue that I could never forget:
May I say something rather daring?
Oh Mr. Beebe, you sound like Miss Lavish. Don't say you're writing a novel too.
If I were, you'd be my heroin, and I should write: If Miss Honeychurch ever takes to live as she plays, it would be very exciting, both for us and for her.


If you have read the book or watched the movie you know that Miss Honeychurch was smart enough (and lucky) to make the right choice and live as she plays Beethoven...
My dear friends, are we living as we play, sing, dance, draw, paint, ...? If not, what are we waiting for?






Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Wild River, when a peaceful nature meets a wild one


Is there anyone who would like to translate me to english?, to an american movie style english? I'm waiting here... I made a list of friends, but I hadn't the nerve to call them. Is this something we can ask a friend?
Wild River is here, but in portuguese:

A força da natureza. A lĂ³gica do progresso. Uma ilha incĂ³moda. E a descoberta do desejo, tambĂ©m ele indomĂ¡vel. Um encontro que se revela criativo.
Wild River.Desde que o vi pela primeira vez que Wild River me tocou de uma forma estranha. Como capta a força indomĂ¡vel da natureza, a cor outonal, os sons... E as personagens, os diĂ¡logos contidos, os gestos expressivos... HĂ¡ qualquer coisa de muito terreno, selvagem e poĂ©tico neste filme! A terra e a alma estĂ£o ligadas, na avĂ³ da jovem mulher. A prĂ³pria mulher Ă© um pouco bravia, como aquele lugar. Eu sei que somos muito diferentes, dirĂ¡ ela ao homem da barragem, que vem para resolver a resistĂªncia Ă  abertura da comporta. Talvez... mas a sua paz (a dele) Ă© mais aparente do que real. E Ă s vezes sĂ³ se encontra a tranquilidade aceitando e vivendo as tempestades interiores (neste caso, sĂ£o mais chuvadas, estĂ¡-se em Outubro).
Bem, nesta altura jĂ¡ deu para perceber que o filme me tocou mais do que a maioria dos filmes... Talvez porque o meu lugar Ă©, tambĂ©m ele, assim bravio: montanhas isoladas, de pinheiros bravos e ribeiras tumultuosas... Sim, e perto, uma barragem tambĂ©m, tambĂ©m assim azul...
Voltando ao Wild River: A avĂ³ de uma jovem mulher, viĂºva com dois filhos, recusa-se a sair da ilha onde sempre viveu. PermanecerĂ¡ ali, teimosamente, atĂ© a obrigarem a sair. Vemos, no seu Ăºltimo olhar desesperado para a Ă¡rvore que cai, que alguma coisa dentro de si tambĂ©m começou a cair... E mesmo que a nova casa tambĂ©m tenha um alpendre, como o homem da barragem quis que fosse respeitado, para lhe agradar... nĂ£o durarĂ¡ muito, adormecerĂ¡ na cadeira, nesse alpendre, de desgosto. O empregado fiel aguardarĂ¡ ali perto, talvez porque pressinta o fim. Um pormenor em que sĂ³ desta vez reparei.
HĂ¡ momentos verdadeiramente mĂ¡gicos. Como eram contidos e, ao mesmo tempo, tĂ£o intensos, os filmes desta Ă©poca! E como se conseguiam exprimir emoções e sentimentos de forma tĂ£o minimalista. Elia Kazan Ă© exĂ­mio nessa atmosfera carregada de desejo. Tudo no ritmo certo, nos gestos, na coreografia. A agitaĂ§Ă£o Ă© interior, estĂ¡ quase a explodir, jĂ¡ a sentimos no ar. Depois desse encontro, ela volta na barcaça. Despedem-se de longe. Vemos no seu sorriso que tudo estĂ¡ diferente. Eles mudaram. E serĂ¡ assim a partir daĂ­. AtĂ© ele descobrir que nĂ£o Ă© assim tĂ£o auto-suficiente... que (tambĂ©m ele) precisa dela. NĂ£o Ă© fĂ¡cil amar-te, dir-lhe-Ă¡ ela. Mas eu amo-te... eu amo-te... EstĂ¡ Ă  sua frente, tĂ£o franca e vulnerĂ¡vel, tĂ£o altiva e comovente. Sim, orgulhosa de amĂ¡-lo, mesmo podendo perdĂª-lo. Sei que em breve te vais embora, tinha-lhe dito. Leva-me contigo.
Sim, hĂ¡ qualquer coisa de bravio neste filme. E de poĂ©tico tambĂ©m. Talvez seja essa a força da natureza, a que o homem pacĂ­fico nĂ£o irĂ¡ poder resistir. NĂ£o apenas se apaixona pela jovem mulher, como aceitarĂ¡ o seu desafio e da forma mais inesperada possĂ­vel. Talvez por ver como ela o defendeu, como uma gata selvagem, naquela luta em que mais uma vez perde. Gostava, por uma vez que fosse, de ganhar uma luta... Ela diz-lhe que isso nĂ£o Ă© importante. Ali estĂ£o, no meio da lama onde tinham caĂ­do, lado a lado. E entĂ£o o homem pergunta-lhe se quer casar com ele... que provavelmente ele se irĂ¡ arrepender e que certamente ela se arrependerĂ¡... Mais inesperado do que isto, Ă© impossĂ­vel.
Sim, o homem ganha uma famĂ­lia instantĂ¢nea, como jĂ¡ lhe tinha dito, de forma sarcĂ¡stica, um dos manda-chuvas do sĂ­tio. O mesmo que lhe batera forte e feio. Estes indivĂ­duos exemplificam, na perfeiĂ§Ă£o, a rudeza e a rigidez de alguns lugares provincianos. TambĂ©m Ă© aqui visĂ­vel o racismo, em que nĂ£o hĂ¡ igualdade de tratamento nem de salĂ¡rios. Esse Ă©, aliĂ¡s, um dos pontos de fricĂ§Ă£o cultural: o homem da barragem insiste em furar aquelas normas absurdas e paga exactamente o mesmo a todos os que contrata. Aqui tambĂ©m podemos medir a sua coragem na medida inversa Ă  sua habilidade e força fĂ­sica. Torna-se especialista em levar pancada. Sim, podemos medir aqui a sua coragem na forma como se sujeita Ă  violĂªncia fĂ­sica, nĂ£o abdicando dos seus princĂ­pios.
Em Wild River a natureza estĂ¡ sempre presente. De certo modo, a natureza acompanha as emoções das personagens, as suas tempestades interiores. A fotografia e o som, sempre a lembrar-nos que tudo isso tambĂ©m estĂ¡ a acontecer dentro de nĂ³s, uma chuvada, um rio que se atravessa, uma ilha que se abandona, uma Ă¡rvore a tombar…
O ritmo tambĂ©m acompanha as emoções de muito perto. E mesmo que algumas cenas nos pareçam suspensas no tempo, em que sĂ³ se sente a respiraĂ§Ă£o das personagens, dirĂ­amos que numa linguagem e num tempo mais prĂ³prios do teatro (e isso Ă© muito Elia Kazan), ainda assim estamos na linguagem do cinema, no tempo do cinema, quando se cruza com o teatro de forma perfeita.
As personagens e os actores, os actores e as personagens, confundem-se aqui. Lee Remick Ă© a viĂºva um pouco bravia. Montgomery Clift Ă© o homem pacĂ­fico. Jo van Fleet Ă© a mulher da ilha, de um territĂ³rio, raiz de uma Ă¡rvore ancestral que o progresso arranca sem-cerimĂ³nia nenhuma.
A natureza e o progresso, a natureza e o homem, num equilĂ­brio instĂ¡vel. Em Wild River atĂ© a barragem parece ligar-se de forma poĂ©tica Ă s montanhas que a envolvem. Mas serĂ¡ possĂ­vel dominar um Wild River?